| he busy and shy men, speed dating is the latest and | | | | questions like: "What do you do?" Tell her something |
| greatest way to meet women. Where else can you | | | | unusual about yourself such as an unusual talent or an |
| get to meet so many single women in one night for | | | | interesting hobby. Pique her curiosity enough to ask for |
| the price of one date? And no more embarrassing | | | | a date. Perform some magic before her very eyes |
| pick-up lines! It's fun. | | | | and then you promise to show her the secrets if she |
| "If you are talking with someone you don't like, you | | | | selects you for a date. |
| know that you only have eight minutes. The bell is an | | | | How do you pick up the right girls? Given a merely |
| easy out," says a 25-year-old female administrative | | | | eight short minutes, you have about five questions to |
| assistant. | | | | ask her. Don't ask her what she has, such as where |
| The common complaint about speed dating is this: | | | | she lives, her career, her family, and whether she has |
| "How much can you know about a person in eight | | | | the five Cs. If you base a marriage on what she has, |
| minutes?" The reality is that you don't, but that's not the | | | | what will happen to your marriage when these tangible |
| purpose of speed dating either. You are there for two | | | | things are lost? |
| main purposes: First, to make an impression to get | | | | Mary recalls. "The last time I was asked that question - |
| them interested. Second, to select a potential life | | | | 'what do you do?' - I responded, 'you mean in bed?'" |
| partner. | | | | Do not fire her with one question after another like a |
| "I am not good at one-liners; I am not smooth, so the | | | | selection interview or asking her as if you are Cheryl |
| bar scene doesn't work for me," says 30-year-old Lee, | | | | Fox in the 'Brainiest Kid' game show. Your purpose in |
| a defense contractor. "Girls put down their guard in a | | | | questioning her is not to know as much about her as |
| way that they never would in a bar or club." | | | | possible. |
| You have only one chance to make an impression. | | | | Your questions should reveal her core character traits |
| The first impression is based on how you look, | | | | and her mission in life. These are intangible that seldom |
| followed by what you say. Check for any turnoff. | | | | change in her lifetime. Ask her what inspires her life. |
| Keep your hair kempt, check your body odor and bad | | | | Ask her what she likes or dislikes about herself. Ask |
| breath. Nothing turns a woman off as quickly as bad | | | | her what is she looking for in a life partner. Ask her |
| breath. | | | | how does she handle stress. Given a choice, what |
| Here's some tips to increase your chance of getting a | | | | would she be doing as a career. |
| match. Don't hog the conversation. Make her laugh. | | | | Matt, 28, said: "I usually go out on about one date per |
| The more she laughs, the more she will like you. Wear | | | | month. After doing this once I had four matches and |
| a smile - a smile goes a mile. Laugh readily, be positive | | | | have dates lined up for the next few weeks. There is |
| and be generous with your compliments. Maintain good | | | | a good atmosphere; it's safe and it's really good fun, |
| eye contact. Be honest about yourself. Take notes | | | | just like being at a party with lots of single women." |
| because you won't remember everyone you have | | | | Don't worry if speed dating is a new game to you. For |
| talked to. Relax and have a good time. | | | | the shy and nerdy, it is a great way to pick up some |
| Speed dating is like a market place. The girls are | | | | social skills. After a few sessions, you will feel |
| looking for the guy who gives them the best value and | | | | comfortable talking to strangers, you will be able to |
| offer. Your strategy is to stand out from the rest of | | | | size up the situation quickly, and you will be good at |
| the guys. Don't give boring answers to standard | | | | reading body language. |